Saturday, February 27, 2010

Why it is NOT a Good Idea to Request That Your Memories be Erased

THE PAST IS THE PAST. Our life experiences are not meant to paralyze us, but sometimes they do. Sometimes we dwell on the past and cannot leave it behind.  You cannot change the past, however, you CAN release the emotional charge a particular memory or event holds for you allowing you to change your perception of an event. The result is in your becoming a much stronger, happier individual than if you simply swept the memory under an internal mental rug.

It is not recommended to purposely remove memories, even the painful ones. I think it's unethical.  There is something of value to learn from every experience you have, even the difficult ones. The object is to effectively  detach/distance yourself from  the emotionally charged content to allow for an impartial/neutral review of the target event should you ever need to remember that information for some reason or should there be a message to learn from it.

Challenging experiences teach us what to avoid, what to do differently, what you might say to help someone else if they were in the same situation. Hypnosis helps the individual detach (dissociate) from the memories and have their unconscious examine those memories and extract any useful information and knowledge.  An individual may then keep those lessons and choose to discard the rest. In the future when faced with a particular person or thought from a past emotionally disturbing event you will find that you are surprisingly unaffected by it.

Hypnosis enables you to look at things in a way that is so detached you feel nothing (neutral). This is what facilitates and promotes rapid growth in an individual.  Out of the past emerges a new you. 

"I treasure all of the experiences I've had in my life. Each experience in your life was absolutely necessary in order to take you to the next place, and the next, up until this very moment." - Dr. Wayne Dyer

Sunday, February 14, 2010

MindFULLness ~ Inside and Out


Join us for an EYE-OPENING 2 hour workshop


Mindful Eating & Hypnosis for Weight Release

on Saturday, MARCH 6th @ 11AM sharp

(Please arrive 15 minutes earlier for registration)

@ The Balance Health & Wellness Center

672 Wellwood Ave. Suite 1 Lindenhurst, NY 11757
2 lights north of Sunrise Hwy and 1 light south of Straight Path
(parking lot in the rear)

Learn more about the foods you eat to get the best nutritional value for your body to maintain proper weight. The lecture is followed by a live hypnosis session to reinforce new healthy behaviors (session will be recorded).

Tami Racaniello, CPT (Certified Personal Trainer), Certified Pilates and Yoga Instructor, Holistic Nutrition & Raw Food Chef

Eugenia E. Karahalias, LCSW-R, CASAC, CCH, Reiki Master, Magnified Healing Teacher & Practitioner

Cost: $35.00
Register by February 20th to receive a $5.00 discount.

RSVP 631-793-1945 or 516-456-4490


Love Yourself...Take good care of yourself!

Care best for others by first taking GOOD care of yourself.  Be loving and you will be loveable! Develop the qualities you desire in a partner and you will attract a lover who has them! Love is never outside ourselves; love is within us.   Start by appreciating yourself.  What are you going to do today and from now on to honor and nurture yourself?  It is so important for you to make yourself a priority.  Attend to your body, mind and spirit on a daily basis and you'll have so much more energy for giving to others.  Happy Valentine's Day!

Friday, February 5, 2010

The Power of Choice

I wanted to share this amazing story with you all.  I could not have conveyed the message to you any better. ~ Eugenia

As taken from Bob Proctor's Insight of the Day:

The Woman Behind the Counter

The other day I was in the Phoenix Airport on my way to a meeting in Denver. Unsure of how long it would take to get the car parked, get the luggage checked, get through the security line, and get to our gate, we (my husband Michael and I) ended up at the airport early. Once we parked our belongings at the gate, I did what I always do when I'm early to the airport; I headed toward the News Stand for the sole purpose of staring at the tabloid magazine covers. Yes, I know, it's a nasty habit, but before you cast your stones, I should tell you I only allow myself to read the COVERS of the magazines. JUST the covers. And even in those few moments I can feel my brain cells rotting and my dislike for humanity mounting.

However, on this particular trip to the News Stand I witnessed something much more fascinating, and disturbing, than any tabloid could offer.

In this particular News Stand there was a friendly looking gentleman. He had a pleasant face that was graced with a cheerful smile. He and I were hovering in the same area; I was looking at the magazines, he was looking at the Snickers bars. Though, "looking" wouldn't be the right word -- "agonizing over" would be a better way of putting it. You see, this friendly-seeming man was about 200 pounds from healthy. As we stood silently by each other, I could hear him as he struggled to breathe, and watch him shift uncomfortably from foot to foot as he worked his way down the candy display.

I watched him out of the corner of my eye as he picked up a regular sized Snickers with his right hand and a KING sized Snickers with his left. He looked at his two options, back and forth, back and forth. He rolled them around in his hands, crinkled their wrappers, contemplating his decision. After at least a minute, he reached to put the regular sized one back ... a shame, I thought. He was so close.

But then, like a flash of lightening from above, at the very last moment, he THREW the KING sized Snickers back. It landed atop the gum with a deafening THUD. The man turned and looked at me with regular Snickers in his hand. Gripped it tightly, shrugged, and smiled.

For a moment, I saw a glimpse of pride on his face; the kind of pride that comes from taking control of your life. Granted, it wasn't the BEST decision, but it WAS a step in the right direction and it was clear he was pleased with himself. I smiled back and nodded; a silent congratulations for a job well done.

He took his regular sized Snickers strutted to the register where a 50ish woman waited. She was friendly in an abrasive sort of way, and as I moved to look at the cover of Men's Health I heard her say to the man (who was still in the glow of his recent victory):

"Sure you don't want the KING sized Snickers? Looks awful good..."

The man who had just made a good decision, froze. He stared at the woman behind the counter. In that moment, it was as if the Phoenix Airport stopped.... As he stared at the abrasive woman behind the counter, I stared at him. The woman reached for the KING sized and waved it in front of his face. "Don't do it. Don't do it," I willed him. But in the next moment, he nodded, took the KING sized Snickers, paid, and slowly walked away.

I wanted to say something, but it wasn't my place. As he walked past, he didn't look my way, instead he looked to the ground and to the KING sized decision he held in his hand.

Now, it would be easy to blame the woman behind the counter for the demise of our Snicker loving friend. She didn't HAVE to offer him the KING size when he seemed to be perfectly content. However, it is not her fault; she was only doing her job (I swear they get paid on commission -- every time I try to buy a magazi... I mean, a pack of gum... they always ask if I would like water or a snack. It can't JUST be because they're really concerned for my hydration or hunger). No, the responsibility lies solely in the man who ultimately made the choice.

We relate to this man. Whether you struggle with your weight, or you struggle to make good financial decisions. Maybe you make poor decisions, of any size, in your personal relationships. Whatever your vice may be (and there may be many), we have all been here before; on the brink of a breakthrough, only to fall short with no one to blame but ourselves. Whether you've been there once or been there 100 times, there is an important lesson to learn here; one that may not be the most obvious.

Who you are now does not determine who you will be.

I'll say it again. Who you are now does not determine who you will be.

Sounds nice, right? Easy lesson, nice lesson, hopeful lesson. The catch is this: you have to MAKE it so. The difference between who you are NOW and who you will BE happens because of choice. It doesn't have to be a heroic choice, it can be small/consistent choices made everyday in the right direction, that make the difference. But they MUST be made and can only be made by you.

How do you do this?

First: start seeing yourself NOW as the person you will BE. If you're broke, start seeing yourself as un-broke. If you're alone, see yourself wrapped in the warmth of a healthy relationship. If you're heavier than you would like to be, see yourself thin.

Second: It is not enough to just SEE yourself there, you must start behaving in a way that mirrors the behaviors of the kind of person you will become. Un-broke people make sound decisions when it comes to finances -- do that now. Healthy people find joy in salads and low-fat dressing -- you should too.

Third: Stay focused. There is a good chance that others will continue to see you as you are now, and that's ok. It's not their fault. They may not be aware that you have made a decision to change; not aware that you are making small consistent decisions toward the person you want to become. They may not SEE those small decisions or REALIZE what they are adding up to. Stay focused on YOU. On YOUR vision for yourself. And don't be afraid to verbalize your desires to those around you so they can aid in your transformation.

This is where I believe our friend at the candy counter went astray:

Perhaps he was seeing himself not as who he IS, but who he could BE -- well, healthy, happy...

I KNOW he was making a small decision in the right direction...

But when he got to the counter, the abrasive woman saw him as he WAS: a man who "must" love KING sizes. And instead of staying focused, instead of standing as a warrior for his future-self, he crumbled with the words "I will always be this" ringing in his defeated ears.

We all relate to this story. We have all been there. I just urge you to not go there again. Fight for you future self, and beware the woman behind the counter.

When all was said and done, I walked out of the News Stand empty-handed and heavy hearted. I took my seat at Gate C27 and waited for our plane to arrive.

(Post Note: Michael ended up sitting next to this man on the plane. When I told Michael this story, looong after the flight, he said, "That makes it worse ... he was such a nice guy.")

Kindra Hall

Kindra Hall is a storyteller with 18 years of experience. She shares her stories on stage, in coaching sessions, and on her blog: She works with organizations and individuals to discover, craft, and deliver their stories in order to more effectively communicate their mission and values. She has performed on the stage of the National Storytelling Festival in Jonesborough, TN at the Exchange Place.

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